Precious Memory of Childbirth

February 26, 2002 will be a day that will be a precious memory for me. I had the opportunity to help coach my older sister while giving birth to my nephew. Now we went to parenting classes to help prep us for the big but the experience in the classroom was way different from the hospital room. It seem like once the baby was actually coming everything was fast. I was blessed to be able to stand beside my sister because I was the only sibling with enough courage to handle the pressure. Once we got to the hospital I watch as they prep my sister and placed her in a room. Things was pretty good until that pain started kicking in faster and faster. Before I could call the doctor he was already in the room giving my sister epidural. Now let me say I have no children of my own so I don't know what contractions feel like at all. However, when that doctor came in the room with that huge needle I remember bending over asking my sister "Girl you sure you want this".  She gave me this look that gave me confirmation that she wanted this. The labor seem like forever but when it was time to push it seemed everyone was excited but my sister. The pushing was not so good for sister. After like four or five pushes I remember my nephew getting stuck. Next thing I see are these silver clamps and I'm thinking to myself "what in the world is the doctor about to do with those"? At this point I"m panicking but I had to keep it together and be strong for my sister. With the help of the clamps and some more pushing my nephew finally arrived and he was a screaming baby. He was a healthy child and it was day I will never forget.

Currently, I have no children of my own. My fiance would like at least one and I'm working on enough courage to someday give him a child. The birthing experience was scary to me but precious at the same time. I do have a fear of having children just because I know that with each one of my siblings there was always complications and i just fear that I too may have some. I chose this experience because it taught me how to be a team mate and have patience. My nephew father wasn't around when my sister was pregnant and I had the opportunity to be a good support to my sister even at a young age. From my experience with my sister I think that the classes we took together, going to her prenatal appointments, and the activities we did help with the healthy outcome of my nephew. He is extremely smart and he learned how to read a very young age.

Japan has different views and beliefs when it comes to child birth. What I have learned from the research is that Japanese mothers are not allowed to have anyone in the room but the doctor, nurse, and significant other. Here in the US I along with both of my parents were permitted to be in the room. When giving birth vaginal deliveries are preferred without pain medication or an episiotomy (surgical incision made to prevent tearing of the vagina). As soon as that pain start kicking in my sister requested pain medication. I don't think she would have agreed to a natural birth. Listed below are some more key things about the Japanese culture.

After the child is born the following things happen in the Japanese culture:

• The mother is not to wash her hair for 1 week because it is not good to flex her neck.
  
• In Japan, the new mom usually goes to her parents home for about 20-30 days.  The grandmother will perform all household duties, because the new mom is not allowed to touch water for washing dishes or doing laundry.  She is also not allowed to drive anywhere.  After that time period, the postpartum mom returns home to her husband with their baby.
• Between 30 and 32 days, the family will then return to the shrine to pray, pay respect, and to offer thanks for a safe delivery and healthy child. The ceremony is called "omiya maeiri".
  
• In Japan, the babies are frequently named after their grandparents.
• An ideal family would be made up of a married couple with 2 children. If a couple were to have 3 or more children, they are thought to be wealthy.

To find out more visit  http://www.hawcc.hawaii.edu/nursing/RNJapanese_04.html